my experience with therapy

I’ve been going to therapy, regularly, since the beginning of the year. I can honestly say it’s one of the best things I have ever done for myself and my health.

Opening up to someone, a stranger, can be extremely daunting, you’re vulnerable, wide open. It can also be completely freeing and cathartic. Going inwards and figuring out why I feel the way I feel about things, what I can and can’t control and what I can let go of, what makes me happy and what doesn’t. Therapy has given me strategies to cope with my anxiety, it’s given me an understanding of what works for me and what doesn’t and how I can figure all of the in between out. It’s given me the courage to be vulnerable with the people around me and it’s allowed them to be vulnerable with me...is there a more beautiful expression of human connection?

Before I arrived at the realization that I wasn’t okay and that I needed support, more than what my husband and family could offer me I thought I was coping. Truth be told I was in denial, I kept thinking to myself I meditate, I eat well, I move my body, I’m in a loving relationship, I’m doing ALL of the things, but there were so many pieces missing. It took someone to hold a mirror up for me, to reflect back to me what I was feeling and allow me to put those feelings into words. I began to no longer feel trapped in my own mind, I could finally sleep again and after a little more time had passed I began to recognize myself again.

Instead of feeling consumed by my emotions I try to instead use them as my guide. Working on ourselves is a process, it’s a life long process. I absolutely know I have so much more to work on but that excites me now, instead of terrifying me, because the more I understand about myself the more I can understand others and create wonderful, wholesome relationships and simply just be happy.

The more we share about our own experiences with mental health the more we can shed light on such an important topic. There needs to be more awareness, more open and honest conversations, we all struggle and that’s simply life but you don’t have to do it alone.

This post is in no way to solicit sympathy. I know the past year has been big and weird for everyone. As always, I share what I do to bring awareness to topics that matter, that aren’t spoken about enough and if me being open about my experience gives someone else the courage to do the same then in my eyes that can only be good. I acknowledge how lucky I am to have access to a psychologist as I know not everyone does but if you do need someone to talk to please reach out to Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14. As always I’m here if you need to reach out and take care of you x

tune in

We are ALL SO different! Don't worry about what others are doing around you, do YOU, be unapologetically YOU! Find what resonates with you, what makes you feel joy! There is freedom in trusting your intuition and letting it guide you in every aspect of your life! Rather than looking to external sources for answers choose to acknowledge your inner guru. Our body sends us little messages all the time, tune into those, they are there to empower you to make wiser decisions about what feels good for your body and for YOU! Have the courage to tune in and adjust as your needs and choices change and evolve physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

What works for someone else won’t necessarily work for YOU. If lifting weights at the gym or running on a treadmill doesn't energise and empower you, don't do it! If eating a vegan diet or low carb or fasting doesn't suit you, don't struggle and suffer through something that doesn't allow you to feel healthy, strong and vibrant! Don't put people up on a pedestal and feel you must do everything they do or everything they say to be or look a certain way! You need to find the right thing for you, be it exercise, food, a hobby or a job, find something your body and mind enjoy, something you LOVE that fits in with your lifestyle! We all have different circumstances and there are countless ways to be healthy, don't choose something that doesn't feel right for you just because it feels right for someone else, this will rob you of your happiness and weaken your intuition! Trust yourself, trust your intuition, let it guide you to make choices that are going to fill you up make you feel fabulous inside and out! Healthy looks different on EVERY BODY!

Trusting your intuition...easier said then done I know! We are constantly bombarded with images and theories on social media about which exercise and diet will change your life and make you live forever, but I'm here to help you make sense of all of that and discover what fits for you! I will guide, support and nurture you on your journey, I'm not here to give you answers but simply to create a space where you can explore possibilities to discover your own answers and your own ways to thrive!

To learn ways you can honour your unique self and explore what foods, exercise and lifestyle tools will suit you get in touch! x

how I get out of a funk

Those days, we all have them. You just don’t feel like yourself, you’re Eeyore carrying a big cloud over your head. It’s totally okay to feel this way, not every day is peachy, that’s normal, that’s life! On these days where I find it really hard to escape that cloud, I accept that’s how I'm feeling and don’t try to force myself out of it, just know that eventually it will pass.

Here are some of my fave things to do to bring a little more sunshine to my day…

Music

Pop some music on or your fave playlist and dance or just listen to the lyrics if dancing isn't your thing. Nothing like a dance party with yourself to boost your mood!

Talk or Write It Out

Talk to a friend, your partner, a loved one, someone you trust. Call them and just tell them how you’re feeling or whats going on and just allow yourself to be heard. If you don’t feel like talking, journal! Write it out in a steady stream on a page and I promise you will feel lighter after you do!

Get Outside

If its possible, get out into nature, even if its just for 5 minutes. Leave your phone behind and just listen to the sounds in the environment around you, this really helps me get out of my head.

Laugh

Pop on something you know will make you laugh, it could be your fave Friends episode or something by your favourite comedian. Laughter is a sure way to get you out of a funk stat!

Rest

Maybe you just need to go back to bed and shut off the world for a little while. Sometimes rest can be the best reset, your brain and your body will thank you for it x